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  • “Teh Twitter”…

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    Yep. I’m on Twitter. I’ve blogged about it before. Hell, I even toss a bit of flash fiction out there every now and again.

    Recently, however, I was on a panel at a SF/Fantasy Con… Actually, I was on a crapload of panels, but that’s not the point. I’m talking about a specific panel – that being a “Social Media” panel. I was really the odd man out on this particular gig. All of the other authors seemed to know one another, whereas I had no friggin’ clue who any of them were, nor they me. So, they all sort of sat toward one end and left me to make sure the opposite end of the table didn’t float away. All good. Just to be sure, though, I checked – I DID use deodorant that day, so that shouldn’t have been a problem. Of course, it didn’t really matter much because 75% of the audience attending the panel happened to be close, personal friends with one of the other authors on the panel, so I probably could have stayed at the bar drinking beer with some folks. At any rate, I didn’t do that. I showed up, I tossed my opinion in there every now and then. Got a few blank stares from the other panelists. Engaged in one of those nifty marketing tactics by handing out some free books. Answered the question, “Why are you handing out free books?” Stared blankly back at them when they couldn’t grasp WHY I would hand out free books even after I told them why. You know, the regular drill…

    I know… So what… Big deal. (2 points to anyone who gets that obscure movie reference…)

    The thing is, Twitter was one of the topics. Well duh… of course it was, Sellars. Social Media. Twitter. Yadda yadda.

    Okay, okay. So THE thing is, one of the other authors on the panel concluded, announced, and/or otherwise stated that one tweet a day is more than enough. In fact, she went on to say that she had made it a point to UNfollow other authors – whose work she enjoyed – because they had the unabashed nerve… the pure audacity… the unbelievable lack of restraint… and tweeted 12 times in one day.

    12 times.

    One day.

    That being 24 hours.

    24/12 = 2.

    An average of one tweet every two hours.

    I don’t know about you but that seems like a pretty laconic tweeter to me.

    Even if we are talking about 12 tweets in the span of one hour, that would be what? One tweet every five minutes… Still pretty reserved if you ask me. However, that’s apparently still way too much. It interferes with the busy schedules of others – all that incessant chattering, ya’know… An absolute din of 140 character info bytes causing a “visual cacophony” in the glassballs…

    But hey, whatever trips your trigger. Follow, unfollow, I don’t really give a flying rat’s whatsits. I personally see Twitter as yelling into the void and hoping someone hears you. Hasn’t stopped me from yelling into the void, of course, but I don’t really count on anyone hearing, or taking notice if they do. Just one of those things.

    Still, for me, the anti-tweeter mentality sort of begs the question, if you’re so damn busy then why are you on Twitter so much? And moreover, why the hell are you counting other people’s tweets?

    OCD much?

    Later…

    Murv

  • Brainpan Leakage Flashback…

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    Due to a massive project that has been taking up the majority of my time, as well as a TOP SECRET project that is still ongoing, I was unable to prepare a blog for today. Therefore, here is a “rerun” of a popular and oddly relevant Brainpan Leakage post from the past, which originally ran 12/20/09… We will return to our regularly scheduled leaking as soon as possible…

    I Just Stumbled Across Your Profile…

    And so the dance of deception begins…

    What dance? What deception? Read on…

    newspaperIn recent months some of the news organizations had their work cut out for them battling against slow news days. By “slow news days” I mean those stretches where the only news was the same old sucky economy and healthcare debate. Nothing new… No dead celebs, no scandals that hadn’t already been beaten to death, no multi-tuplets, and no shocking tragedies.

    They needed something to wax poetic about, as usual, and so they filled the “news holes” with feature programming. One in particular that stood out from the crowd – for me, at least – was when they dusted off a bit of psychology coupled with the Internet. I probably took notice of it because of my fascination with the human condition and how our minds work, but something tells me I’m not the only one had an interest in this subject. (Duh, Sellars! Why else would they be doing the reports you doofus? Yes, I know, sometimes I can be Captain Obvious Doofus Guy…)

    What am I babbling about? Simple – the news programs ran some feature reports about the “wisdom of looking up your old flames on the Internet.”

    Is it wise to do so?

    Is it not so smart after all?

    And, what is it you are really after?

    Well, personally I found these reports to be interesting, again, because of my fascination with psychopathologies and what makes people tick. They were nothing new. There have been articles about this before, but the statistics and correlations between them and other statistics (divorce for instance) keep changing… And not necessarily for the better.

    However, as usual I thought their reports were a bit stilted and incomplete. By that I mean, they skewed it to make things sound like people don’t harbor subconscious intentions, and we all know that’s not true. But, moreover, they didn’t really get into the warning signs of the whole “what are you really after” factor. They had psychologists babbling about how it really isn’t a good idea to go in search of old flames because you might get in over your head, but they were simply paying lip service to the advice. No substance. No admissions that intentions aren’t pure. And most especially, no red flags for the prey of the “old flame hunters” out there who end up sliding down that slope as well if they aren’t careful.

    Well, being a somewhat public figure, as mentioned in the past I have actually had to deal with stalkers a time or two. And, while not exactly the caliber of stalkers, I have also had to deal with old flames looking me up.

    Yes, I know it comes as a shock to many of you, but I actually dated before becoming an indentured servant to the Evil Redhead. And, I know it’s an even bigger shock to discover that any of them would actually want to look me up after managing to get rid of me… Well, just imagine how surprised I was as well, so there…

    exgirlfriendcandleBut, moving right along… Said flames have ranged anywhere from a “quick flick of the Bic” to “long lasting bonfires.” However, the common thread and most important point about them is that they have long been extinguished and there are no smoldering embers – at my end anyway.

    Now, I should point out that there is a difference between an old friend and an old flame. If you don’t know what that is, go back to 5th grade health class and watch the birds ‘n bees filmstrip again (yeah, dating myself…) And, there is a huge difference between looking up an old flame and looking up an old flame then contacting them.

    Especially if the old flame happens to be married.

    These latter two points are exactly what I am talking about.

    So, while I don’t even begin to consider myself an expert on the subject, I do happen to have more than just a bit of experience in this area, as well as some intense background studying irrational behavior (I write about sociopaths, remember?)

    Admittedly, I hold no degrees in the subject of psychology. But, as noted, I write fiction for a living, and as any fiction author can tell you, we are lifelong students of human behavior. It’s how we make our stories real. So, while we aren’t licensed to help you cope with your clinical depression, odds are we can spot a bullshit artist quicker than your average bear. And yes, that talent also draws from the old adage, “it takes one to know one,” as fiction authors are bullshit artists by trade. What makes us different from other BS’ers is that we readily admit it.

    So anyway, it recently dawned on me that perhaps I could put my powers of BS X-Ray vision to use for the good of mankind, and at least partially fill the void left by the feature news programs. Especially since it is “that time of year” – yes, the holidays – which as it turns out is when statistically there is a sharp rise in the number of “old flame contacting” occurrences. (I have a pet theory that Dan Fogelberg and his song, Same Old Lang Syne are directly responsible for this phenomenon. I call it the Fogelberg Unwanted Creepy Kook Marriage Encroacher Effect or FUCKMEE for short.)

    To that end, I am offering here a “red flag dictionary” of sorts. A modest listing of phrases often used – and reused – by “old flames/flings on the prowl.” The thing is, they appear perfectly innocent at first, but when unwrapped they look absolutely nothing like the representation on the outer packaging.


    EMAILED PHRASE/QUESTION WHAT IT ACTUALLY MEANS

    I just happened across your [insert social network] profile… I have been scouring the entire world wide web for months, and even wasted 20 bucks on Intellius.com for out of date info, all in order to find you because I am kind of a creepy weirdo who has become inexplicably obsessed with you after all this time…
    You look good…
    Damn! You’re still just as hot as I remember/even hotter than I remember. I, on the other hand, didn’t age all that well. Wanna hook up?
    I’ve always wondered where you ended up…
    I have been experiencing really intense masturbatory fantasies about you on a daily basis. Sometimes twice a day. Especially when I am off my medication.
    You look happy…
    I am –
    a) not happy in my marriage
    b) going through a nasty divorce
    c) divorced
    d) really horny
    e) both d and any other item above
    – and am hoping the same is true for you so that we can hook up and do the nasty…
    Maybe we could have lunch and catch up…
    Screw lunch and catching up. What I’m really after here is a nooner, just like old times…
    We had some good times, didn’t we?
    Remember that time we f*cked each other stupid in the back seat of my Gremlin? Wanna see if we can re-create a memory? By the way, can you still do that thing with your tongue?
    I’m happy to see you doing so well, you deserve it…
    My self-esteem is shot here. My spouse doesn’t understand me, the kids are driving me nuts, the dog has mange, and the hamster peed on me while I was cleaning its cage. Please tell me you feel as trapped in your relationship as I do, and that you are looking for a fling, because that is exactly why I am contacting you in the first place…
    I can’t believe it’s been this long since I’ve been in touch with you…
    I’m drooling at your profile pic and touching myself… A lot.
    I can’t believe we lost touch, and I’m so glad I found you…
    I can’t remember why we broke up, but I seem to recall sex with you was pretty good. I’m really horny and I’d like to f*ck you right this minute. As it happens, I’m parked across the street from your house in a dark sedan, so if you’re game I’m waiting…
    My [insert family member] still live(s) in [insert your city / town]
    Even though I am living XX states away, I come into your town on a regular basis to visit family. Every time I’m there I cruise past your house several times, but your spouse is always home. Why don’t you give me your cell number so we can hook up and f*ck for old time’s sake.
    Your wife / husband is a really lucky gal / guy…
    I hate that f*cking bitch/bastard because they have you and I don’t. I’m really hoping you hate her/him too because I really want to do you in a cheap motel room.
    So, do you have any kids?
    Are your kids old enough so that you won’t feel guilty about having an affair? Or, are they young enough not to notice your indiscretions and rat you out to your spouse? (For women being hunted down by an old boyfriend this may also mean, “Can you fit into your daughter’s school uniform? If the answer is yes, are there any pictures?”)
    I’ve done okay for myself…
    Choose All That Apply
    a) I got out of prison a year ago and my parole officer is pretty easygoing
    b) I work part time at Burger Palace and live in my mom’s basement
    c) Alimony and child support are killing me
    d) I took my ex for everything he had, which wasn’t much.
    But, enough about me. If you want to hook up let me know.
    So, what does your wife/husband do for a living?
    Choose All That Apply
    a) Does your spouse have a job that requires travel? Because I will gladly time my visit to coincide with when she/he is out of town.
    b) Maybe you can pick up the tab for the motel room?
    c) Any chance you’ll be rolling in it if you divorce her/him?
    By the way, can you still do that thing with your tongue, because I’m having that masturbatory fantasy again…

    And there you have it.

    While the “what it really means” column was presented with a bit of over-the-top, tongue in cheek verbiage for the entertainment value, it isn’t actually far off the mark. The stark reality is that more often than not, the gist of the “hidden sentiments” are exactly the same as those listed above, even if the words themselves aren’t. Word choices have meaning, both obvious and hidden. They are hooks, they are invitations, they are designed to evoke a response. Ask any writer – it’s what we do.

    FreudStatistically, the whole old flame thing is a slippery slope. If you don’t believe me, here’s a link to an article written about it back in 2006 – Think Twice. The one thing in this particular article I take exception with is the idea that these things start innocently. This is where I step out over the abyss and state that I think perhaps writers just may know a little bit more about human nature than psychologists doing experiments with a room full of chimpanzees, a crate of bananas, and some bad porn tapes. Primarily because of the fact that a simple universal constant is always ignored, that being – nobody is completely innocent after the onset of puberty. Yes, the “father of modern psychology,” old Sigmund himself (the psychiatrist, not the sea monster) said that, “Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.” Well, that’s true. But, it’s the intent of the person holding said cigar that is at issue here.

    Furthermore, I would posit that rather than being the norm for an old flame or fling to contact someone out of the blue after several years simply because they care how they are doing, it is in fact the complete opposite – extremely rare. Whether conscious or subconscious, in contacting an old flame or fling, a person is hoping to re-kindle a feeling that once existed because it is something that is currently missing from their life. And, as noted in the article, the percentage of these “old flame contacts” has grown because the internet has made it easy to chase people down.

    But, you need to be aware, people don’t go looking for you unless they want something. That’s a hard, cold fact.

    Take it from someone who has not only been on the receiving end of such contacts, but knows others who have as well. There’s an entire story written between the lines, and it’s not Hallmark material…

    And trust me dear readers, that is non-fiction…

    More to come…

    Murv