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    I used to wonder if my family had ties to Mexico. We’ll get to why in just a bit…

    If you happen to follow me on Facebook you probably saw a status update last week lamenting the fact that I had a fairly obnoxious Christian witnessing to me. She’s actually a nice lady, but she’s a little too passionate about her beliefs – literally to the point of being outright disrespectful about anything that doesn’t match her way of thinking – which, as she tells it, it God’s way of thinking. But, I’m not here to get into that… Suffice it to say, I received just as much advice on how to handle her from my FB friends as I did advice from her in the first place. My bad. I probably should have kept the whole thing to myself. But, again, I’m not here to get into that…

    You see, on the heels of all that, I attended a family reunion – EKay’s side. This portion of the family, much as I love them, are also deeply ingrained in their religious beliefs. All good. However, some of them take the same approach as the young lady I dealt with the previous week – that being that even the simplest of conversations must be turned into a witnessing and/or sermon. At past gatherings this has forced me to excuse myself and go hide. This go around, fortunately, I was spared such, and had a great time. But, again, this has little to do with my suspicion of a Mexican heritage – or does it?

    Here’s the thing: Being at odds about religion is nothing new to me. Portions of my own family were just as ingrained in their beliefs, especially on my Dad’s side. In fact, my grandfather literally “ran the pews” at his church. Whenever I would spend summers back in Kentucky, working on the farm, Wednesday and Sunday always involved Church. A lot of it. And there were other Church events – suppers, picnics, etc – where I would end up as well.

    Again – where does this south of the border heritage thing come in?

    Well, my grandfather would say grace at every meal. Now, while I may have been at odds with them about religion, by the same token I was respectful about it as long as I wasn’t being beat over the head too badly. So, when grace would come around I would bow my head, remain silent, and listen. My grandfather, Joe Sellars, would invoke Jesus, request blessings upon the food, the land, the family, and anyone else sitting at the table. If someone else needed to be included in the prayers they were, and then he would wind down to the end. As he approached the final “amen,” his mumble would become less intelligible – at least, to me. For years I struggled to understand what he was saying but never could quite put a finger on it, other than to the best of my hearing he was saying: Fiesta now and then, uh-huh…

    Given that Joe Sellars ran the pews at the church, I think maybe there’s something to that. Apparently he was more of a “partier” than I ever knew.

    I had it in my head that I was going to save this story for the magnum opus autobiography I would write in coming years, but since I really doubt anyone much cares to read about how I got up, went to work, then came home, over and over again for 400 pages, I thought maybe I’d just put it here.

    But, who knows? Maybe something interesting will happen before I kick off, and I WILL write that autobiography anyway. If I do I think I’ll go ahead and call it, Fiesta Now And Then…

    Just for fun I’ll have the release party in Water Valley, Kentucky and hold it on Cinco de Mayo…

    More to come…

    Murv

    • Nice Peak at your history Murv. How do you handle those with obnoxiously opposing views? That is something I have been working on for sometime. Your blog is always a great way to start my day before dealing with one such co-worker. But I really do get tired of it.

      Have a great though oppressively hot day in St. Louis

      D. Alexx

      • I usually end up flabbergasting them if I feel like I have time to actually get into a conversation. However, if I don’t want to put up with it I just blatantly ignore them. When they finally explode and want to know why, I tell them that I am happy to talk to them about the weather, dining, or anything else mundane, but no religion, politics, or controversial subjects. If they cannot play by those rules, then I continue to ignore them.

    • I Like it. It is one of the first things we were actually taught when I went to school for Massage Therapy. Topics to avoid in the treatment room if the client insists on talking are religion and politics. Basically there is no good that can come from a conversation like that. I have learned with clients, things like “I never thought of it that way” or ” It is not something I am comfortable talking about” usually shuts them up with out being rude. with co-workers the only thing to do is to ignore them unless interaction is necessary for the clients benefit. Being lead therapist I am often called on when a determination of massage and client safety is an issue, so until then I just ignore them.

      Alexx

    • So why didn’t you ever ask Grandpa Joe what he was mumbling? I’m putting on my grumpy frustrated face because now I want to know what he actually said!

      I have to try really hard not to punch the Jehovah’s Witness I see every day in the train station. I just get so angry when I see this able-bodied man standing there shoving killed trees into peoples’ faces, when, if he really wanted to demonstrate the goodness in his heart, he’d be standing in a shelter, dishing out food, or collecting goods for the poor, or even (gasp) become a tax-paying contributor in our society and get a freakin’ job.

      Grr. Sorry. Pushed one of my own buttons there. Just back away slowly and nobody will get hurt.

      • You just didn’t do that sort of thing. Oddly enough, I’ve asked just about everyone in the family at one time or another what it was he was saying, and none of them knew either. There’s a general consensus that it was an oddly cadenced, mumbled “In Jesus’ Name, Amen,” but even that’s just a theory.

        It really and truly sounded like “Fiesta Now And Then, Uh-huh”…

        And, who knows? Maybe I heard it correctly. For all his seriousness and devoutness, Joseph Samuel Sellars (Called Cepheus by my grandmother – he was, after all, a farmer) had a fun streak. 😉

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